Garbage Rules

Garbage Rules could be about exposing some terrible rules. Garbage Rules could be about some rules for handling garbage. Garbage Rules could be about how garbage is in control of our lives. This book is about rules for understanding how garbage rules your life if you let it. If your mind is focused on garbage, then you will think garbage. If your soul is focused on garbage, then you will experience garbage. If your heart is focused on garbage, then you will feel garbage. In this book, you will discover hundreds of ways that you focus on garbage, and thus receive garbage. If you become aware of this pattern through variation and repetition, then you can learn to switch to more effective and fruitful patterns. Most of the Garbage Rules are restated in various ways. This is helpful for four reasons: (1) repetition aids both learning and memory; (2) sometimes you will miss a concept presented in several formats, but grasp it in another unique format; (3) you may be so lost in self-talk that you dont notice a concept the first few times you encounter it; (4) you may finally understand a concept after multiple encounters with it. The Garbage Rules are organized into categories that server as chapters. This organization is often arbitrary and only for convenience. In total, there are 1,613 rules about garbage. We recommend you read this book cover to cover the first time you read it. This will prevent your missing the Garbage Rules you most need to face and surrender. Many of the ideas contained in Garbage Rules deserve further exploration and even abstract analysis. However, such is neither the purpose nor the design of this book. You can discover the deep philosophy behind most of the rules by reading some of the authors other books, or by reading some of the books suggested at the end of this book. It is the rare person who can use a self-help book to remove and replace rather than to just recognize their self-defeating behaviors. Therefore, go to www.albertellis.org and find a certified REBT, Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy, counselor in your area. In any event, this book is not meant to replace counseling, therapy, or medical treatment. Exploring the Garbage Rules will help you in many ways and with many issues. Here are some of the ways and issues listed alphabetically: acceptance, assertiveness, attitude control, boundaries, charity, communication, compassion, contentment, coping, detachment, ego reduction, emotional responsibility, empathy, equality, forgiveness, happiness, humility, letting-go, motivation, parenting, peace, problem-solving, responsibility, right identity, self-control, self-reliance, serenity, surrender, understanding, universality. When you laugh at your thinking, feeling, and acting with garbage, then you can learn to rely less on garbage as a guide. Learn to surrender your dependence and devotion to garbage by observing yourself using garbage with garbage results. Make this book serve as a mirror so you can face and drop your faith, hope, and charity for garbage. The authors works offer seven different approaches to self-help. 1. In Breathe, you discover methods for congruence, self-relaxation, self-calming, and self-centering. 2. In Garden, you discover methods for sorting out what thoughts work for you and what thoughts work against you. You also learn how to increase your productive thoughts and to decrease your unproductive thoughts. 3. In Not, you discover methods to stop using the number one mistake that underlies failure. You also learn how to be a more effective parent or leader. 4. In Ego, you discover methods to reduce your devotion to and dependence on ego. You also learn how to be free, happy, and more creative. 5. In Attitude Is All You Need!, you discover methods to sort out what attitudes are working for you and what attitudes are working against you. You also learn how to increase your productive attitudes and to decrease your unproductive attitudes. 6. In the five books Something For Nothing, Anything Goes, Acid Test, 3D: Daily Dose of Discernment: 2003-4, and 3D: Daily Dose of Discernment: 2005, you are given sayings and aphorisms to use for introspection, contemplation, and meditation. 7. In Garbage Rules, you are confronted with your reliance on garbage and the resulting garbage that reliance brings into your life. This awareness serves to motivate you to switch to healthier and happier styles. Please experiment until you find the one or two approaches that work best for you. Worry not if your approaches are the best for anyone else.