Ever Wonder Why... You Intimidate Your Partner?

This book is part of a guide series that focuses on helping singles change their fate and those in relationships understand some of the frequent dynamics that we can improve by simply adapting our behaviours. Understanding insecurities within others and oneself can bring the necessary knowledge that makes a relationship work, or at least gives it its best shot.
Have you ever wondered why there is a common theme in your interactions with your lovers – they feel intimidated by you? You are a woman who knows what she wants (most of the time) and you have learned to fend for yourself in the modern world of bitch eat bitch. Alternatively, you’re a man who takes no prisoners but wishes his partners wouldn’t bow down but meet him at eye-level. The very thing you are proud of is the very thing that should make it easier for someone to be with you. While men don’t have to take you out to a fancy dinner because you’re capable of paying for it yourself, your self-sufficiency is a very attractive feature. At the same time, you don’t want to be that man that has to take his lover out for a meal to pay his way into their heart. You figure you’re a great catch and appreciation wouldn’t go amiss.
On paper, you are absolutely right. There is nothing or no-one who can take away the pride you should have for having become an independent person. Most people admire you for it and struggle to ever get there. Your strength is exactly what carried you through some difficult situations, or else you wouldn’t have had the challenges to be where you are today. Don’t let anyone take that away from you as your confidence should be commended. However, if someone asked you to rate your intelligence, you would probably score high. It is this very intelligence that I’m banking on. In all your life focus, you have dedicated time and years to social and corporate studies you never got a degree for. Your brain and your reasoning have been the shoulder to cry on when you’ve had emotional upheaval. We need that brain to focus on a few more angles you simply haven’t had the time to look at. Once you understand what you’re doing to your partner without you even knowing you’re doing it, I’m certain you will be able to turn your fate around. The unfortunate thing is that while you believe to be a better catch and a better match for a man than a bleak little dependent woman, he will most likely disagree. Men are notoriously better at choosing partners for relationships. That’s the reason they often reject one-night stands, affairs or the most amazing women to be with in the long run: they can see the bigger picture of what she will need and what he will need. A man will worry that your independence will make it hard for him to keep you so the fear of loss enters his mind as soon as his thoughts of how sexy it would be to be taken by you. Men want you but they fear you too much to come near. This guide looks at some scenarios why.
On the other hand, for you men out there who are aiming to find an equal and sick of carrying dependent women who walk in your shadow, remember that women have been conditioned in a lot of families and traditions to worship their men. Breaking the pattern of thinking will take some time but becoming an encouraging partner yourself can be achieved with less delay.