Rebuilding Your Marriage

If it feels like you’re missing something in life, maybe it’s time to try something different. This workbook will show you how apply a simple, but life-changing process to accomplish that.First, here’s a starter question: Would you sooner be right or happy?Both are a choice. You can make a conscious decision to pick one over the other, and we can show you how to do that … if you can answer the question: Right ___ Happy ___If you chose ‘Right’, then there is “sort of” a solution to your problem; “sort of” because it requires that your partner have a codependent personality, which is defined as ‘a psychological condition or a relationship in which a person is controlled or manipulated by another who is affected with a pathological condition’. In broader terms, it refers to the dependence on the needs of or control of another. It also often involves placing a lower priority on one’s own needs while being excessively preoccupied with the needs of others.Codependency can occur in any type of relationship including family, work, friendship, and also romantic, peer or community relationships. Codependency may also be characterized by denial, low self-esteem, excessive compliance, or control patterns. Narcissists are considered to be natural magnets for the codependent.In other words, the codependent partner believes and/or acts as though they only exist to please their partner.If you chose ‘Happy’, then there is a definite solution to your problem and we will address that solution as we go along.For now, you may be reading this because your marriage is dangling from a ledge. You may be here because you’re trying to avoid the mistakes of previous relationships. You may be here because you have suffered some level of distress from obvious symptoms to quiet panic because things are not the way you had hoped. You may be just looking for more effective ways to communicate with your partner.Whether your marriage is troubled or you just want more from it, you have probably gone through long periods of soul-searching and self-confession while attempting to learn what one does to become a good partner.It is not unusual for us to get a call from someone (usually a woman) who says, “Our marriage is in trouble but (my partner) won’t go to counseling with me. What can I do?”When one partner suggests bringing a counselor into their marriage problems, the other partner either hears an alarm while envisioning being attacked by their partner and the counselor, or imagines the stories that their partner and the counselor will release to the world. Confidentiality be damned! Anxiety, panic, and other fear-based emotions fill their mind and affect their mental and physical health hence the old saying about becoming sick and tired of thinking about unpleasant things. Unpleasant things that may not have happened … yet.The usual result in situations like this is strong resistance and arguments that escalate from somewhat calm to really, really loud. And both partners are left feeling frustrated and hopeless. We can help with that because this workbook will show you how to deal with your troubled relationship by coaching you through the process of rebuilding. On your own terms.This workbook is about coaching, not counseling.