Why We Fail At Romantic Relationships

It is important to clarify that this book is NOT about sex. At least that's not the primary focus. It is about romance - mostly because, without romance, sex can become less than it could/should be. I disagree with those who believe that love and sex should be intrinsically linked at all times when, to me, love and sex seem to be separate entities. But that is just my opinion and whatever your opinion is, it is every bit as valid as mine. With that explanation down and done I felt kind of lyrical so I have inserted, below, my very own attempt at poetic verse. Romantic Relationships are rare Coveted by many Experienced by few And the many accept the love We believe we deserve In the book, there are sections on codependency and counterdependency, written so as to make them more understandable to those readers who may not have studied or researched those behaviors. The sad part is that most relationships of codependency and/or counterdependency are very stressful. In fact, many things that are stressful to us as a result of the behaviors of others can be handled if one is able to detach. The definition of detachment is summed up by the following:• I didn't cause it• I can't control it• I can't cure it• I can't change it but I can change myself. If you can accept and adopt the foregoing information you will be on the path to no longer suffering as a result of someone else's behavior because you are wait for it what your deep driving desire is. You read that right: you are what your deep driving desire is and as your desire is, so is your will. As your will is, so is your deed. As your deed is, so is your destiny.Or, another way of saying it is, if you don’t know where you’re going any road will get you there. The title was chosen because I wanted to talk about putting the romance back into intimate relationships so that the sexual part becomes a reward and not a duty or a punishment. Let me explain... Sexual intercourse can obviously be used for procreation but it can also be used to communicate, to comfort, and - unfortunately - to punish. Same act with different reasons and outcomes. Wow! Being a human can be really mind-bending at times. And that may very well be why so many intimate relationships collapse; they lack romance.