Proper Parenting: Bringing up Contended Children without Spoiling Them

Table of Contents

Introduction
Cocooning and Spoiling
Faulty Child-Rearing Practices
Impatient and Restless Parents
Critical Parents
Bargaining Parents
Resentful Parents
Indulgent Parents
Inconsistent Parents
Child Rearing Tips
Enjoying Your Child’s Company
Teaching Kids to Fend for Themselves
Making Simple Rules
Frustration Tolerance
Conclusion
Appendix
Author Bio
Publisher

Introduction

How many times in your life have you come across children, who are quite capable of throwing tantrums when their slightest wish is not fulfilled immediately? Just imagine a mother panicking, because she is just going back home from the office, and she has forgotten to bring some chocolate ice cream for her kids. She knows what she is going to meet when she enters her house. Tear fests, tantrums, whining and complaining.

This is when parenting turns out to be not a pleasure, but a pain. Many parents do not know the best level headed approach to bringing up kids without spoiling them.

Why is the reason why parents begin to dread facing their children as they are going to make their lives a living hell when they are told that they are not going to get the things that they expect their parents to bring them? In the eyes of the neighbors and the teachers, that particular child is such a perfectly behaved little angel, but the moment their parents have to deal with her or him, he turns out to be a little devil incarnate.

This child is stubborn, and difficult to handle. He cries at regular intervals. He throws temper tantrums. He disobeys instructions. In fact, he is going the right way in becoming a menace to society and the people around him.

This book is for all those parents who want to know how to bring up their children as future well balanced, sensible, mature, and responsible young adults.

If you recognize any child in your vicinity having such loud temper tantrums regularly, or you think that this scene is familiar in your own family, it is time you sit back and pay a bit of attention. Are you afraid of coming back into your own house, because you know that there is going to be a World War III taking place there just because of your little ones does the thought of dealing with your angry child make you feel upset and uncertain?

And most of all, are you feeling guilty and helpless just thinking why your child is behaving the way he or she is, in spite of your best efforts to check or discipline him/her?

Nobody wants a spoiled brat. But many of these brats become spoiled, just because their parents have allowed them to get away figuratively with murder from day one. Nowadays, I am sorry to say, that many parents think that it is the children who should be in control. A child has say in questioning the way in which he is brought up, and can call the police in if his parents day to admonish him or discipline him or even call him a greedy little pig.

This is an absurd state of society or of your environment. I read a book in which her mother was so immature and helpless, that her 11-year-old daughter had to make the decisions for her mother who could not be bothered. The child had to take care of finances and money matters, because the mother was still living in her world, where her parents treated her like a little doll and a little princess from day go. After she got married, this burden was shifted on her child!

A child is not an adult. A child is not a decision-maker. A child needs to be taught right from wrong. It is the duty of the parent to teach a child not to expect things beyond reasonable limits.